Taking the decision to carry out a DNA test can be a complicated one, as once it’s taken, doubt becomes a part of the relationship. This creates conflict and stress between partners until the matter is cleared out and even after, the atmosphere may not return to normal due to the new revelations that have been brought to light.
Uncertainty in a child’s parentage can be a tricky problem to solve. It is an innate desire in every parent to know if the child they have in their care is biologically theirs or not. The quest to finding the child’s biological parents may lead to a surprising outcome at the end, therefore it is recommended to handle situations such as this with care.
It is important to note that the truth will not only affect the relationship between partners, but also the relationship with the child as well. If there is no biological link, there is a likelihood that the alleged parent will reject the child, leading to possible emotional trauma.
Take this scenario as an example.
There is a couple , Ms. X and Mr. Y, who have a daughter, Z. Ms. X wanted to carry out a paternity DNA test to confirm the father’s relation to the child, as Ms. X was having doubts about the paternity. Mr. Y agreed and gave his samples for the test. The test came back positive and all was well for a while.
Ms. X chose to carry out another paternity DNA test later on, as she started to notice that the growing child was bearing no resemblance to the father. Ms. X did not consult Mr. Y on the second test, she took his samples and sent them for testing. This time, the results came back negative. So how did it come to be that two paternity tests with the same participants led to two different results?
The matter ended up being solved in court, where it later released a statement summarising the whole predicament.
‘After careful examination of both sides of the story, here is what appears to be a summary of the actual facts. During the time of the child’s conception, Ms. X was having intimate relations with both Mr. Y and another man, who shall be name Mr. W so as to not disclose his identity.
Ms. X and Mr. Y continued their relationship when they found out that the mother was pregnant. At this time, it was believed that the child’s father was Mr. Y. The mother started having doubts about the parentage of the child when the child continued to show no physical resemblance to the father while growing. The two paternity tests that were carried out did not match in their results, which is why the mother brought the matter to court when Mr. Y would not provide her with clear answers.
Bound by the court rules, Mr. Y revealed that he had had doubts about his relationship to the child, but did not seek out answers as he was concerned it would badly affect the child’s wellbeing and their relationship. Knowing of the mother’s relations during the time of conception, he had a strong suspicion of who the biological father of the child was.
When Ms. X approached him for the first paternity test, he discreetly changed the samples with that of Mr. W. As Mr. W was the biological parent of the child, the test came back positive. Mr. Y could not manage the same trick twice when the mother took his samples without his knowledge, resulting in the negative result.
When asked to give an explanation for the deceitful behaviour, Mr. Y said that he was led to these actions as he was afraid that the relationship he shared with the child would be damaged or possibly lost. He considers the child to be his own, even though she is not biologically his.
Fortunately, the case was closed with Mr. Y being charged with minor fraud charges and with a personal promise to reimburse Ms. X for the money paid in the paternity tests. He was allowed to continue being apart of the child’s life , as long as he did not deny her the chance of also getting acquainted with her biological father in the future.’